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How to Have an Amazing Year
How to Have an Amazing Year. Simple, do Amazing things.
Plan these in, look forward to them with positive anticipation and after the event look back savouring the memories.
“One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree.
‘Which road do I take?’ she asked.
‘Where do you want to go?’ was his response.
‘I don’t know,’ Alice answered.
‘Then,’ said the cat, ‘it doesn’t matter.”
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
““One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree.
‘Which road do I take?’ she asked.
‘Where do you want to go?’ was his response.
‘I don’t know,’ Alice answered.
‘Then,’ said the cat, ‘it doesn’t matter.”
”
How to Have an Amazing Year
Simple, do Amazing things
Plan these in, look forward to them with positive anticipation and after the event look back savouring the memories.
Watch this short video.
https://youtu.be/MTgg37r_F9Q
As shared in the video, we went to a Candlelight Concert on the theme of Bollywood. The benefit of planning and doing amazing things was that we looked forward to the experience. This gave a positive feeling and we went with the expectation it would be a good experience.
During the event we were present and mindful, appreciating the ambience of the venue and wonderful talent of the musicians.
After the event, we are able to savour the memory as we share it with others. This leads to a positive, good mood.
I am looking to have at least one Amazing experience each month.
Let me know if you have any suggestions.
What are you looking forward to, have planned, what were highlights and learning from last year?
As in previous years, they will be to foster Physical, Mental, Emotional, Social and Spiritual wellbeing. Step out of comfort zone, learn, develop skills and grow. Be of service. Create memories and have joy.
Currently planned and some of the benefits/reasons :
Meditation & Mindfulness Day and Breathwork Workshop : Learning, skill development and supporting my friend who is running the workshops. This enables cultivating good working relationships with other practitioners.
Looking Back, Looking Forward Workshop : Expand my comfort zone as it will be the first time I will be doing in-person, service to community.
London City Walking Tour With 5 friends : Enjoy a prize I won in a raffle. Treat some friends to an experience around their birthdays. Make the most of the day out creating positive memories, social connection and spending quality time together.
Gratitude for Wellbeing at North Finchley Library : Deliver a workshop in a new venue. Cultivating good working relationships. Continue the working relationship with Mind in Enfield and Barnet and also serve the Happy Life Habits mission.
Sound Healing session : Attend some Sound Healing /Bath sessions run by people I know
A few weeks travel abroad to visit family : A break from norm and a change in scene. Allowing social connection and a time for learning.
Visit with family and friends to watch a new play “Comedy about Spies” : Fun experience full of laughter. Spending quality time with friends and family.
ABBA Voyage Concert : Enjoy excellent music to sing along to that will make me feel good.
Self Renewal Luxury Retreat @ The Vedanta : Enjoy delivering the workshops and also having a relaxing time at this retreat, in a wonderful venue with like minded souls.
In addition: Celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, achievements, time in nature, time with family, friends and community.
Happy Life Habits events to look forward to :
Social Connection dinner/lunch : one event in first half of the year near International Day of Happiness March 20th and another in the second half near Thanksgiving around the forth Thursday in November.
30 Day Gratitude & Journaling Habit Immersion Training course : our lifechanging flagship course that helps develop and benefit from a regular gratitude habit, a journaling habit, a morning and evening routine. One training course to be held in the first half of the year and another in the second half of the year.
Positive Grief Talk during National Grief Awareness Week in December
Gratitude Practice on WhatsApp : On 1st January we launched a 10 Day Gratitude Challenge for the first time on WhatsApp. Each day a different gratitude theme/question to contemplate on and share reflections. The feedback on the experience from the participants was excellent. Summarised as :
A different and moving experience beyond individual practice that helps you go deeper in your practice, think outside the box, be inspired from insights from others perspective, see our common humanity and make a positive difference to your day
All respondents to the poll rated it 5/5 - Amazing/Awesome/Transformative
The intention is to run a Gratitude Practice each month on WhatsApp. Join here.
Self Renewal Luxury Retreat : Following on from our first Self Renewal Luxury Retreat in September 2024 which was well received, with an average 9/10 rating by the participants, we are running another one on 8-10th November 2025.
Invest in your self-renewal at our retreats designed to re-energise, refresh and rejuvenate your wellbeing whilst connecting with like-minded people for an unforgettably meaningful experience in a beautiful countryside setting.
Happiness Boosters / Coaching / Talks / Workshops as and when booked by organisations and corporates
Even as I write this and think about the plans for this year it brings a positive and optimistic feeling.
Hiccups / Spontaneous / Expectations
Undoubtable some things will not go to plan. Things may get cancelled, postponed, delayed due to things outside your control or your own doing. You may become unwell, a friend can’t make, tube strike that could hamper the journey and so forth.
That is life. That’s ok.
The plans may go better and if they do not, I’ll step back to see the big picture and learn from the experience.
By planning, organising and expecting the best, I feel in control and have a better time leading up to the event or experience. We get what we focus on.
You need to be flexible to spontaneous opportunities. Sometimes these are the best. Such as a friend popping over unannounced, or a last minute shout to go out for a meal or chance encounter and conversation.
Many say, especially spiritual teachings that we should not have expectations as can cause disappointment and emotions when not met.
I think expectations themselves are not the issue but an attachment to the expectation or outcome is.
By expecting the best, we look for the best and also show up as our best helping to make it the best.
If it does not work out as expected, the quicker we are able to accept the situation and learn from it the better for us.
Planning allows us to feel in control of our lives, gives us an opportunity to enjoy looking forward to the experience, Enjoy while it happens and savour it after the event. Triple benefit from the one event. Now that’s a good return.
Looking Back, Looking Forward
There is much merit in looking back and review the past year. It allows us to learn from, celebrate and let go to move forward in the new year. We can see patterns, remember highlights and observe growth.
Looking forward allows us to plan, dream, visualise, prepare and the most out of the new year.
For a number of years I do an end of year review and often mid year too. Life is at a hectic pace that we can sometime lose track of what has happened.
Looking Back, Looking Forward Workshop inc. lunch Sunday 26 January 2025 10:00 am - 1:00 pm
What is the wisest decision I made in 2024?
This is one of the questions from the Year Compass booklet we will look at in the workshop and capture in the booklet.
The Looking Back, Looking Forward Workshop is a great way to review the year.
The workshop includes:
- The YearCompass workbook
- In person session in NW London (limited spaces)
- Lunch (Vegetarian/Vegan)
What will you give you time, energy and attention?
"If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much." - Jim Rohn
We will do structured review and planning
- a structured review of the last year using a workbook to look at various themes including personal life, work/studies, hobbies, friends, health, emotional, spiritual, finances etc.
- Capture learning, moments, challenges, achievements
- Consider what we want to let go
- Focus on new year via various themes including personal life, work/studies, hobbies, friends, health, emotional, spiritual, finances etc.
Questions to guide and focus such as
About Last Year :
What is the wisest decision I made?
The biggest thing I completed?
About this Year:
I am ready to let of of these 3 things ...
This year I will not procrastinate any more over...
Capture it in the YearCompass to refer to during the year and thereafter.
What are you looking forward to, have planned, what were highlights and learning from last year?
Year Review / Planning Resources
Here are videos/podcasts/articles and tools I have found beneficial for planning, goals and habits
Mel Robbins : How to Make Next Year the Best Year: Ask Yourself These 7 Questions
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cm6oJwpuOYc
Oprah Winfrey - How to Finally Change Your Life in 2025
https://youtu.be/v7VWqwCSc08?si=VzcWReIaIIUQ9p2B
Joshua Becker - 12 Unique Resolutions https://youtu.be/d3Ry0zbYnsU?si=2T48caakMdMWuVXp
Jim Kwik - 5 Steps for a Limitless Life in 2025 https://youtu.be/Vc-tuW85uHo?si=pPrk1ZaIIYaFr2nz
Andrew Huberman 6 small habits can CHANGE your life in 2025 (21 day plan) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEq-AYSRFHE
Dr Rangan Chatterjee How To Completely Change Your Life In 2025 - 5 Habits You'll Actually Use https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h2k7FO6hNr4
How to Make Next Year the Best Year: Ask Yourself These 7 Questions
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cm6oJwpuOYc
Oprah Winfrey - How to Finally Change Your Life in 2025
https://youtu.be/v7VWqwCSc08?si=VzcWReIaIIUQ9p2B
Joshua Becker - 12 Unique Resolutions https://youtu.be/d3Ry0zbYnsU?si=2T48caakMdMWuVXp
Jim Kwik - 5 Steps for a Limitless Life in 2025 https://youtu.be/Vc-tuW85uHo?si=pPrk1ZaIIYaFr2nz
Andrew Huberman 6 small habits can CHANGE your life in 2025 (21 day plan) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEq-AYSRFHE
How To Completely Change Your Life In 2025 - 5 Habits You'll Actually Use | Dr Rangan Chatterjee https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h2k7FO6hNr4
Some planner tools
Join the Happy Life Habits WhatsApp Community - more regular sharing done here.
Shaileen Shah - Happy Life Habits Coach, Speaker & Trainer
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list and join the Happy Life Habits Community WhatsApp Group
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
Happy Life Habits Positively Impacting Happiness & Wellbeing Levels
The Final
It’s a time for finals.
My son got the results for his second year university degree course and was relieved he got through after one exam he felt did not go well. I’ve seen him put in the effort over a long period of time to do his best.
My niece is awaiting her ‘A’ Level exam finals results before embarking on her university degree journey. She is also preparing for a classical Indian Dance graduation performance. A journey she started when 5 years old which will result in her performing a dozen or dances in front of a live audience of a few hundred. This requires talent and effort to build skill.
This weekend is the Wimbledon Tennis Women’s and Men’s Finals as well as the Euro 24 Finals.
To perform well in all these finals takes preparation, commitment, training, mental resilience and consistency.
It’s a time for finals.
My son got the results for his second year university degree course and was relieved he got through after one exam he felt did not go well. I’ve seen him put in the effort over a long period of time to do his best.
My niece is awaiting her ‘A’ Level exam finals results before embarking on her university degree journey. She is also preparing for a classical Indian Dance graduation performance. A journey she started when 5 years old which will result in her performing a dozen or dances in front of a live audience of a few hundred. This requires talent and effort to build skill.
This weekend is the Wimbledon Tennis Women’s and Men’s Finals as well as the Euro 24 Finals.
To perform well in all these finals takes preparation, commitment, training, mental resilience and consistency.
I am reminded of some learning from my Heroic Coaching where Angela Duckworth, the author of Grit says for that Effort counts twice.
Talent X Effort = Skill
Skill X Effort = Achievement
She goes on to say the 4 variables for Grit are: Passion, Practice, Purpose and Hope.
The sports greats go above and beyond to be the best. It’s not overnight success but lots of hours of hard work, sweat, tears, disappointments and learning. I read about Michael Jordan practicing and practicing his shot for basket ball. Kobe Bryant in the basket ball court at 4:30 in the morning to practice his fundamentals.
Novak Djokovic has made it into the Men’s Wimbledon Finals again. He has been ranked No 1 for a record 428 weeks, won a record 24 grand slams, so far, and won the most money. From my Heroic training and App this video was shared . It is awesome and inspiring. It shares his mental training, handling emotions, reset from failure, using conscious breathing and abundance mindset amongst other insights.
Watch the bit where the interviewer says Novak’s gift is mental strength. Novak immediately interrupts him and corrects saying it is not a gift but comes from effort and training.
Jude Bellingham’s journey is also quite amazing. He is only 21 and been scouted since 8 years old. This article is worth a read, check out the bit about signing for Dortmund club after he was 17 and had signed contract with Birmingham football club so they were able to get £30 million transfer fee.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/extra/wnsbc2uwiq/boy-prince-bellingham-ready-for-biggest-stage
Whoa, Halfway there, Living on a Prayer - 6 Month Review
Wow! We are halfway through the year already! It only seemed like yesterday that we were at the start of the year, reviewing the year gone, making plans, resolutions and setting goals.
Take a moment to review your plans, goals and aspirations you had set at the beginning of the year.
Celebrate the outcomes achieved, learn from the ones not achieved yet, and keep a focus on what you want to get done by the end of this year and take action to progress towards it.
I’ve had some things go to plan, some not go to plan, life curveballs chucked at me and unexpected opportunities come through.
On the last day of June before 9am I’ve spent about 3.5 hours on learning and growth. This is one of my strengths so I am investing on average 2 hours a day on learning and growth. Consistently applying and developing micro habits for all core facets of life to deepen and expand my knowledge, skills, impact and live a rich, fulfilling life.
You may not have 2 hours or be interested in investing that time on learning but just want to know what to do to get the results you want. That’s ok. That’s where I can help.
You can appoint me as your coach to help you go from where you are to where you want to be providing guidance, support, accountability, resources and encouragement.
In the same way that you may not want to plant and grow all your own food, stitch and sew all your own clothes, travel everywhere on foot. You invest in tools, services and mentors/guides to help you get there faster. Getting a better return, leverage and use of your time, energy, focus and money.
Inside Out 2
Recently watched the Disney Pixar film Inside Out so we could watch the sequel Inside Out 2.
Both are excellent films and well worth watching. They deal with the various emotions : Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear and Disgust in the first film. The sequel introduces changes at puberty and the emotions of : anxiety, embarrassment, envy and ennui. Really great how beliefs and memories are depicted.
There is a event that may interest you about the science behind Inside Out 2
https://ggsc.berkeley.edu/what_we_do/event/the_science_behind_inside_out
Milestones
At the start of the month my older brother Anuj celebrated his 60th Birthday.
Anuj has been and continues to be a wonderful role model teaching me leadership, kindness and service.
He is an avid learner, brings compassion and empathy into his work.
He has been a core member of Happy Life Habits Community providing me with lots of support, encouragement and conversation.
Joining in all the book clubs, master mind groups, training courses and activities.
I just rewatched episode 2 of the first series of our Inspiration Point Podcast in which Anuj took part in during 2020.
It is a awesome episode with lots of great, inspiring content and take away actions.
Some of the topics we cover are: mindfulness, breathing, cloud busting, Bruce Lee / Kung Fu, Tai Chi , Qui Gong, Football and Sports, Emigration, Chess, bullying, letting go and the Oshwal Enabling Network.
The Final Quarter
Final chance to benefit from early bird offer for Self Renewal Luxury Retreat @ The Vedanta
SECURE THE EARLY BIRD PRICE BEFORE IT RISES TO £595 ON SHARED BASIS OR ADDITIONAL £50 FOR SINGLE OCCUPANCY
There are a 2 spots left for the extended early bird offer on the LUXURY SELF-RENEWAL RETREAT @ The Vedanta, Lincolnshire A beautiful grade II listed retreat centre 27th Sept- 29th Sept 2024
Join us on a LUXURY SELF-RENEWAL RETREAT @ The Vedanta, Lincolnshire where we focus on Self-renewal and Energy
Management making your life beautiful by prioritising how you use your energy, time and attention to engage in activities that help you flourish, thrive, have zest and engagement to feel fully alive.
Invest in your self-renewal at our retreat designed to re-energise, refresh and rejuvenate your wellbeing whilst connecting with like-minded people for an unforgettably meaningful experience in a beautiful countryside setting.
The retreat offers sessions to practice breathwork, meditation/mindfulness, movement, gratitude and journaling.
Group life coaching workshops for Self Renewal and Energy Management
Share open hearted discussions & conversations.
The Vedanta is a beautiful grade II listed luxury retreat centre with 75 acres of woodlands, meadows and lakes to feel grounded in nature with scented breezes, swaying trees and songbirds.
You will be able to unwind by taking walks in the beautiful grounds or relaxing in the swimming pool and spa area with a sauna, steam room and jacuzzi, plus 24-hour gym.
In the evenings connect and play in the games room equipped with table football, table tennis, air hockey and a pool table.
Enjoy a naturally healthy sleep on luxurious eco-friendly bedding in a shared bedroom fully furnished to a high standard with a private en-suite bathroom.
Be nourished with wholesome, heart warming, vegetarian/vegan meals on full board basis crafted by experienced in-house chefs cooked with freshest, locally sourced ingredients.
There are 2 spots left for the extended early bird offer:
(1) The £550pp Early bird price till 31/07/2024 then £595
(2) All deposits fully refundable till 31/07/2024
(3) For a limited period all rooms are being offered with no single room supplement. (normally £50 extra) (2 spots left)
(4) The price includes a free gift and a one hour free coaching session with Saijal and Shaileen (2 spots left)
(5) Bring a friend or more and each of you will receive a discount of £50.
Which means for limited time for £500 (if you are bringing a friend and claiming the extra £50 discount) you can get :
single occupancy room, a free gift and 1 hour coaching with life coaches Saijal and Shaileen. Plus refundable deposit (all these extra benefits valued at over £150).
If you are considering this, need more info, need a payment plan etc contact Shaileen on 07900137566
The Retreat will be a minimum of 10 people and max 25.
LUXURY SELF-RENEWAL RETREAT @ The Vedanta, Lincolnshire A beautiful grade II listed retreat centre 27th Sept- 29th Sept 2024 To book contact: Shaileen on 07900137566 or Saijal on 07825837437
Shaileen Shah - Happy Life Habits Coach, Speaker & Trainer
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list and join the Happy Life Habits Community WhatsApp Group
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
Happy Life Habits Positively Impacting Happiness & Wellbeing Levels
A Thousand Mile Journey Begins With The First Step...
Is you life too busy, boring or bland? If yes, read on, focus on self-renewal and energy management making your life beautiful by prioritising how you use your energy, time and attention to engage in activities that help you flourish, thrive, have zest and engagement to feel fully alive.
The year 1994 was a defining year in my life. I was just reflecting and realised that 2024 marks 30 years since I started my personal development and growth journey.
Is you life too busy, boring or bland? If yes, read on, focus on self-renewal and energy management making your life beautiful by prioritising how you use your energy, time and attention to engage in activities that help you flourish, thrive, have zest and engagement to feel fully alive.
The year 1994 was a defining year in my life. I was just reflecting and realised that 2024 marks 30 years since I started my personal development and growth journey. It was the year I also started my corporate IT career with a US based consulting firm by being proactive and creating my own luck. You can read more about it here: https://www.happylifehabits.co.uk/news/2023/08/01/work-ethic.
While working in Michigan, USA I was introduced to the classic and transformative The Seven Habits of Highly Effect People : Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Dr Stephen R. Covey. This had a profound impact on me. Around the same time while working in Chicago I flew back to London for a long weekend in November to attend with my family the legendary Tony Robbin’s 2nd ever UK Unleash The Power Weekend (UPW) Seminar. This is the one where on the first night you end up doing a fire walk over hot, smouldering coals.
The 7 Habits and the UPW experience were my first steps on a journey of self development and growth and of sharing with others what I was learning. One major learning has been to focus on Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw: Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal.
habit 7 Sharpen the saw : Principles of Balanced self-renewal
Covey says
“Habit 7 is taking time to sharpen the saw. It surrounds the other habits in the Seven Habits paradigm because it is the habit that makes the others possible.”
“It’s preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have - you. It’s renewing the four dimensions of your nature: physical, spiritual, mental, and social/emotional.”
“Taking time to sharpen the saw is a definite Quadrant II activity.”
“This is the single most powerful investment we can ever make in life - investment in ourselves, in the only instrument we have with which to deal with life and to contribute. We are the instruments of our own performance, and to be effective, we need to recognise the importance of taking time regularly to sharpen the saw in all four ways.”
Physical: Exercise, Nutrition, Stress Management
Metal: Reading, Visualising, Planning, Writing
Social/Emotional: Service, Empathy, Synergy, Intrinsic Security
Spiritual: Value Clarification and Commitment, Study and Meditation
The Self-Renewal Retreat
We have organised for end of September will share sessions on Self-Renewal and Energy Management. The Self Renewal was instilled from ideas from The Seven Habits of Highly Effect People : Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Dr Stephen R. Covey my first personal development book and start of my self development and growth journey. The Energy Management from my current book Arete by Brian Johnson and Heroic Coaching.
The focus on these themes have helped through out my journey and in particular in my current roles as a carer for my mum, family man, being of service in volunteer work for community organisation Young Jains and sharing through Happy Life Habits.
Acutely aware that Life is Short, I have habits, awareness and priority for how I use my Time (Planning, Priorities, Quadrant II), Energy ( Eat, Sleep, Move, Breathe) and Focus.
H.E.A.L.T.H =
Happy
energy
attention
life
time
habits
Progress on mastering these six, designing and crafting them into your awareness and every day routines will lead you to have a beautiful life.
Here is my very first blog article on Happy Habits for a Happy Life.
https://www.happylifehabits.co.uk/news/2019/1/15/happy-habits-for-happy-life-1
"The clocks may have gone forward one hour, we may have "lost" one hour. What's more important is how we use the hours we have left."
Shaileen Shah - Happy Life Habits Coach, Speaker and Trainer
Recently I had a one week period of amazing experiences reminding me of how far I’ve come, my purpose and passion and the things that are important for Happiness, Health, Wellbeing and to flourish.
These were:
Thursday:
Last session of set of 5 of the Happy Life Habits Book Club with is working through the book Arete by Brian Johnson.. This was an engaging session with lots of insight sharing, differences made by applying the ideas and I left with good energy and motivation.
Friday:
Session 8 of my Every Day Happiness 10 week course with Mind in Enfield and Barnet. The topic was journaling. The attendees have been given course work for a few weeks to apply practices and it is wonderful to hear about them going for it, seeing the impact on their happiness score and observations of the what they experience.
Sunday:
We ran a in person Social Connection event with Young Jains, an organisation that has had a big impact on me and one that I have the opportunity to be of service to. A small group gathered, some familiar faces some meeting for the first time. We had deep and meaningful conversations that helped use connect and know each better. This was facilitated by some group questions such as “What is your favourite book and why?” to using various cards for one to one interaction. There was warmth, trust, open sharing and a strong sense of connection and belonging with like minded people. Social Connection is vital for our happiness, health and wellbeing.
The Social Connection continued with conversations continuing over a delicious vegetarian/vegan meal at Little Resham. Food for mind and the body. You can get a 5% discount at Little Resham if you mention Shaileen Happy Life Habits.
Wednesday:
On International Day of Happiness I had the opportunity to share a talk on The Science of Happiness. An opportunity due to relationship building and persistence. This was great as I was living my purpose and sharing my passion.
Thursday:
A colleague calling me at 12:40pm just as I was getting ready for lunch. He said he was stuck in traffic and if I could run an online taster session at 1pm, in 20mins. I said I would call him back in 2 minutes once I had check something. I called him back, said yes. Set up my computer, opened the slide deck and joined the online platform to share a session. It went well.
In the evening I ran the first of 3 Free Positive Grief sessions in the lead up to June’s Growing Around Grief : 30 Day Gratitude and Journaling Habit Immersion Training Course.
Here are some of the comments in feedback:
“Thank you for the informative session. Hoping to use your methods to grow around the grief to support me”
“That was a really good reminder of all aspects of grief brought together. Love that you have brought all aspects in a positive way”
“Loved being part of this session.”
Why and How
I was able to do all this due to putting time and effort into learning content, developing skills, building relationships, handling set backs and having a gut feeling that it was the right thing to do . I have developed inner confidence in that I have deep trust in myself that I can handle whatever unfolds.
The beauty of this book club there is not set number of pages to read till the next session. You read what you can, apply what you want and when we meet share accordingly. This takes away the pressure of having to have reached a certain point or to keep up with everyone else. The sharing by all gives deeper and different perspective on ideas, inspires and motivates. A great opportunity to consistently focus on Learning and Growth, an aspect that is key for our happiness and health.
Details here of the next set of dates, if you would like to attend a session to see how it works get in touch:
Shaileen Shah - Happy Life Habits Coach, Speaker & Trainer
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list and join the Happy Life Habits Community WhatsApp Group
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
Happy Life Habits Positively Impacting Happiness & Wellbeing Levels
Looking Forward and Creating Magic
Having things to look forward to has a positive impact on us. The holiday or the together that you have planned; you enjoy the anticipation leading up to the event sometimes more than the actual event. Looking forward also can fill us with hope. I’ve enjoyed planning things and having activities to look forward to, they have helped to navigate the turbulent experiences life gives us.
Self Care Retreat
Having things to look forward to has a positive impact on us. The holiday or the together that you have planned; you enjoy the anticipation leading up to the event sometimes more than the actual event. Looking forward also can fill us with hope. I’ve enjoyed planning things and having activities to look forward to, they have helped to navigate the turbulent experiences life gives us.
In December I worked on the Year Compass and the Mel Robbins Best Year planner that I have shared in the Happy Life Habits WhatsApp Community. I filled out the planners, looking back on the last year and the plans for the forthcoming year. In addition to more corporate opportunities two I had added as dream/stretch goals were : (1) A retreat and (2) a TED Style talk.
I am excited that plans are progressing for both of these faster than anticipated. This is due to the power of goal setting visualisation, planning, nurturing relationships, taking action. In doing these I set my subconscious in motion and when the opportunities came or I created it was like magic.
In the supermarket after not being in direct touch for many years I bumped into good friend of mine, Saijal. We had served together as volunteers with the Young Jains community. We re-connected and later she reached out with an idea of doing a self care retreat together. I am looking forward to it, sharing our individual skills and experiences to offer great value to the attendees.
We are organising a 3 night / 4 day Self Care Retreat in the Autumn:
Invest in yourself at this self care retreat in a beautiful setting whilst connecting with like-minded people
The retreat offers yoga, breathwork, meditation, gratitude, journaling sessions as well as group life coaching workshops.
Share open discussions & conversations
Providing you with self care tools to be the best version of yourself to perform your various roles.
Get in touch to express interest for more details.
In relation to the TED Style talk, I have been booked for a private session for International Day of Happiness to share about Happiness. Do get in touch if you have any opportunities.
Happiness Boosters: A Shot of Positivity
In addition to the various workshops and talks for the corporate space, businesses, organisations and charities we are offering Happiness Boosters: A Shot of Positivity. BOOST Wellbeing, Productivity, Resilience & Positivity. A fun, interactive, small group, online / in person Happiness Booster that lifts the mood, energy & connection. Designed to support Mental, Emotional, Social Wellbeing & Positive Growth Mindsets. Scientific proven practices (e.g. Gratitude, Mindfulness, Kindness ).
Book this for you team, Department, Clients, Networking / Community / Charity Group
Team building, Wellbeing Days, Mental Health Days. Offsites, Ice Breaker, Orientations, Retreats, Conferences
For each referral you give that leads to a booking we will reward you with the option of: A Happiness Journal or 10% off Happy Life Habits Training courses/workshops or 45 min 1:2:1 coaching session.
Happiness Boosters: A Shot of Positivity. BOOST Wellbeing, Productivity, Resilience & Positivity.
Social Connection - International Day of Happiness
Many a time we have shared the importance of social connection and positive relationships for our happiness and wellbeing. Our Social Connection offering comes together for a meal, conversation and celebration. Last year we gathered in Autumn for Diwali/ Thanksgiving. Our next one is in March for International Day of Happiness.
Join the HLH Social Connection WhatsApp Group if interested.
HLH Book Club
In the 2 book club sessions we have had interesting conversations. Each of us is reading the Arete book at our own pace. We are coming together and sharing our insights, application and seeking perspectives and clarity. It is a great learning opportunity. Some recent information on Brain Health highlighted the benefits of continuous learning, social connection, nutrition and movement for good brain health and to reduce chances of Dementia,
One conversation has been on the Viktor Frank quote:
“BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE THERE IS A SPACE.
IN THAT SPACE LIES OUR FREEDOM AND POWER TO CHOOSE OUR RESPONSE.
IN THOSE CHOICES LIES OUR GROWTH AND OUR FREEDOM (HAPPINESS)”
One has been what do we do to create that space to choose our response and another what does it mean by Freedom? Send your answers on a postcard or join the Book Club!
We have also looked at Energy from the Energy, Work and Love triplet. Choosing something we can commit to do, as a small change between one Book Club session and the next in order to put the theory into action. Various actions chosen such as : more walking, less sweets, no biscuits or fizzy drinks for 10 of the 14 days, going to bed earlier and drinking more water. We share our experiences at the next session and choose another small action to commit to for the next 2 weeks.
Happy Life Habits Book Club
Happy Life Habits 21 Day Challenge: Reverence
Before the pandemic and lockdowns started in 2020 I had hosted a 21 Day challenge. It helped me very much during this period that I continued to host a further 4 in subsequent months on themes of gratitude, kindness, simple living and mindfulness.
21 Day challenges are a great way to get new perspectives, shift mindset, develop discipline, consistency, learn, connect and grow.
I am hosting another free 21 Day Challenge on the theme of Reverence starting at the end of Feb and running till International Day of Happiness on March 20.
To join the challenge and receive the daily challenge emails click here :
https://www.kindspring.org/challenge/join/2239/
In addition this time we have a HLH Challenge WhatsApp Group where details of zoom catch ups during the challenge period will be shared.
Join the Happy Life Habits Challenge WhatsApp group for potential zoom sessions during the challenge.
Here is an example of one of the daily emails.
To join the challenge and receive the daily challenge emails click here :
30 Day Gratitude & Journaling Habit Immersion Training Course for Growing Around Grief
In recent months we have experienced grief with anniversary of the death of my father, death of my father in law and other death anniversaries and losses. Gratitude and Journaling helps big time.
We have adapted our core 30 Day Gratitude and Journaling Habit Immersion Training Course to offer support for Growing around Grief. The live zoom sessions will have activities and exercises related to growing around grief plus opportunity to share and support each other.
The Positive Grief Talk will be part of this offering.
Dates are being finalised, you can join waiting list.
Shaileen Shah - Happy Life Habits Coach, Speaker & Trainer
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list and join the Happy Life Habits Community WhatsApp Group
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
Happy Life Habits Positively Impacting Happiness & Wellbeing Levels
End Of Year Review 2023
Review 2023
At various points in the year I take a moment to review the preceding time period and what is forthcoming. This is often at the end of the year with the Looking Back, Looking Forward workshop, the middle of the year and sometimes ad hoc too.
Like journaling, writing and sharing the review helps me celebrate the wins, learn from the challenges, see growth and gratefully acknowledge the opportunities.
My chosen highlights for 2023
Here are the themes for my chosen personal and professional highlights for 2023 with a brief example. Details on these continue in the blog article.
Commitments, Learning & Habits-
The projects and roles I have committed to I have delivered on. What has helped is consistency, focus, intention & creativity. I have worked from my strengths, stretched, stepped out of my comfort zone, attempted new ideas, used a growth mindset, been resourceful and drawn upon my various past experiences.
Social Connection and Celebration - Various birthdays and anniversaries are celebrated including milestone ones.
Rest & Renewal - much needed overdue holiday break in Kenya with Masai Mara Balloon Safari, forest walks and relaxation at the beach
Community Service & Volunteering - Mental Health Awareness Week digital support and masterclass on Anxiety
Achievements & Creative Innovation - Becoming a certified Heroic Performance Coach from 300 Day coaching program
Review 2023
At various points in the year I take a moment to review the preceding time period and what is forthcoming. This is often at the end of the year with the Looking Back, Looking Forward workshop, the middle of the year and sometimes ad hoc too.
Like journaling, writing and sharing the review helps me celebrate the wins, learn from the challenges, see growth and gratefully acknowledge the opportunities.
Here is review from 2021, 2022 and mid year 2023.
My chosen highlights for 2023
Here are my chosen personal and professional highlights for 2023. Details on these continue in the article.
Commitments, Learning & Habits -
The projects and roles I have committed to I have delivered on. What has helped is consistency, focus, intention & creativity. I have worked from my strengths, stretched, stepped out of my comfort zone, attempted new ideas, used a growth mindset, been resourceful and drawn upon my various past experiences.
A daily focus on learning, self care / renewal, mission statement review, setting intentions, gratitude, journaling, meditation, exercise, nutrition, virtue cultivation, planning, reflection, developing new positive habits have been the bedrock to allow the successes, opportunities, deal with the challenges and be resilient.
Social Connection and Celebration
Various birthdays and anniversaries celebrated including milestone ones.
Happy Life Habits lunches to celebrate 3 years of 30 Day Gratitude & Journaling Habit Immersion Training Course and second annual Thanksgiving Lunch.
Catch up and get togethers.
Rest & Renewal - much needed overdue holiday break in Kenya with Masai Mara Balloon Safari (Bucket List), forest walks and relaxation at the beach
Community Service & Volunteering
Pure Soul exhibition
Young Jains NEC
Focus on Forgiveness digital offering
Mental Health Awareness Week digital support and masterclass on Anxiety
Workshops for World Values Day - What Values would you die for?
Achievements & Creative Innovation
Becoming a certified Heroic Performance Coach from 300 Day coaching program
Being a Heroic Ambassador
Join the SoulBrite Winning Wellbeing team - taking part in LinkedIn Lives
Launch of Inner Compass - Program for deeper clarity on your life, time, energy and focus
Move to Happy Life Habits WhatsApp Community with various subgroups
Dedicated Mental Health group with Master Class on Anxiety and daily support / sharing for Mental Health Awareness Week
Daily sharing of Positive quote in Daily Quote group - to start the day with a positive
Publishing Every Day Happiness Book
Mind In Enfield & Barnet asking us to design and deliver a 10 week course on Happiness in addition to the Gratitude for Wellbeing Workshop.
Happy Life Habits Community Facebook Group - Each week on various days sharing of a question that promotes happiness and wellbeing
Purely digital/online daily offering for Jain Festival of Forgiveness
This was shared at the 6 month review blog in June https://www.happylifehabits.co.uk/news/2023/08/01/work-ethic-e585y
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The year started with a key note presentation for an HR conference in Athens.
We launched a new program Inner Compass and continued with the Master Mind Program.
Took part in 2 podcasts : People on Purpose and Estrella of Happiness - Within You.
Delivered two 3 hour workshops on Gratitude for Wellbeing for the charity Mind in Enfield and Barnet and supported Mental Health Awareness Week on the theme of anxiety sharing resources daily in a dedicated WhatsApp group and Master Class on Anxiety.
Our flag ship 30 Day Gratitude and Journaling Habit Immersion Training Course celebrated it’s 3rd year. We positively impacted trainees when we ran the course in March and a last minute decision for June. June was opened as free gifted refresher to previous attendees.
We celebrated completion of the June course and three year anniversary for the first time with an in person celebration dinner (which was open invite for all Happy Life Habits Community members) at the restaurant Little Resham. We shared delicious, vegan food, conversations and connected deeper with the use of the gratitude cards.
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In addition to those shared above here are some more Happy Life Habits and personal highlights
Got Oshwal Connect New Years Honours List Award for the Mental Health and Wellbeing work
Organised a virtual surprise for my friend Priti who was celebrating her 50th Birthday. We had an Inner Compass/Master Mind session scheduled on her birthday. At the end of the session she was surprised on return from break out room when many of her friends and family had joined. We all shared memories and qualities that we saw in her. Awesome part was that in addition it to being a complete surprise we recorded the sharing and she now has that a gift to look upon and savour the memories.
We celebrated my wife Harshna’s 50th too with various get togethers. There were various milestone birthdays and anniversaries we were able to take part in celebrating, connection and creating memories.
Met up with a few university friends from 30 years ago
Ran Daily Facebook part of 30 Day course in November for past course attendees and also had annual Thanksgiving Lunch
My son finished his first year at University, passed his driving test and I’m just beaming with pride at his maturity and cultivation of virtues. The first time we went for driving practice in the family car after he had already been having lessons I was a little cautious. Watching him do all the safety checks and drive diligently the cautiousness went away and I feel really safe when he is driving.
Rest & Renewal
We had an awesome Summer break in Kenya, our first since Covid and lockdowns. Time spent with different family members for parts such as trip to Nanyuki near the foothills for Mount Kenya where the Equator is. A memorable experience was a trek to swim in waterfall lagoon at Ngare Ndare Forest. This was followed with a Masai Mara safari and ended with a whole family trip to the Mombasa including the South coast beach.
Many memories and wonderful experiences created. In particular the Masai Mara trip where on one particular day we set off before sunrise to watch the sunrise from a Balloon Safari (Bucket List) over the Masai Mara plains. An amazing experience followed by a bush breakfast. We did safari the whole day with a delicious picnic lunch inside the Mara where zebras were our backdrop. in In that one day we saw all of the Big Five : Elephants, Rhino (rare), Leopard (rare), Lions and Buffalo. More than 12 hours later we ended the day after the afternoon safari with a sunset sundowners.
Community Service & volunteering
As Happy Life Habits we supported for free Mental Health Awareness Week in May. The theme was anxiety. We shared daily videos, articles and quotes on a dedicated HLH Mental Health WhatsApp Group. An anxiety masterclass was shared.
Late February I was invited to join the Pure Soul team that was delivering 2 weekends of community events as SOAS university as part of the Pure Soul exhibition related to the Jain faith. I joined the team to assist with this project and draw upon my experiences for projects and leadership roles in Young Jains and SCVP as well as those gained from Happy Life Habits. I helped provide support, guidance, communication, create and coordinate a volunteer team. As Young Jains we delivered a workshop on Radical Forgiveness. Priti and I played the MC roles of the Sunday afternoon.
I rejoined the Young Jains NEC (non executive committee) at the end of July to aid the organisation which is facing various challenges.
Within the first few days against the odds I proposed an idea to deliver an digital offering for the Jain forgiveness festival of Paryushan at the start of September. Leading up to the festival, during and after we had a dedicated Focus on Forgiveness WhatsApp group. Each day we shared in English articles, quotes, songs, poems and awareness actions. For four evenings we delivered live online reflection sessions.
On World Values Day in October we offered 2 workshops: What Values would you die for? . One had no attendees despite registrations. This was disappointing. The second session was well received by those who attended. A strong reminder that our role is to show up, do our duty and understand that the results/outcomes are not in our hand.
List of articles shared in 2023
Here are links to articles shared this year.
INNER CHEERLEADER INSTEAD OF INNER CRITIC
MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS WEEK 2023 : 15TH - 21ST MAY: THEME ANXIETY
MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS WEEK: ANXIETY RESOURCES
A STRONG WORK ETHIC - WORKING 9 TO ...
Many thanks for your support, encouragement and engagement during the last year. We look forward to continuing to serve you in the new year.
Shaileen Shah - Happy Life Habits Coach, Speaker & Trainer
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list and join the Happy Life Habits Community WhatsApp Group
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
THE SPIRITUAL WARRIOR'S PRAYER
We are now in the final 3 months of the year. A good time to revisit your goals, aspirations and plans from the end of last year or start of this year and review where you are and what you want to do before the end of the year. Happy Life Habits has a few projects till the end of the year and into the new year that may interest you. These include:
HLH Thanks Giving Lunch
World Values Day
HLH Book Club for 2024
10 Week Training Course for the charity Mind In Enfield and Barnet
What I love about cultivating virtues, qualities and living values is that they help me grow, be aligned to who I am or want to be and bring my best self to situations. This is all part of inner work. No short term fix but long term transformation.
“THE SPIRITUAL WARRIOR’S PRAYER
I pray not to be protected from life’s battles,
But to have the courage to conquer them fearlessly.
I pray not to escape from my struggles,
But to learn the lessons the universe is trying to teach me.
I pray not to work for fame and recognition,
But to make it my mission to love and serve others in all that I do.
I pray not to measure my wealth and success by what I own,
But by how grateful and abundant I feel in my heart.
And I pray not for my circumstances to change so that I feel happy,
But to be a beacon of light in the world wherever God places me.”
Rest, Recovery, Rejuvenation, Review
We are now in the final 3 months of the year. A good time to revisit your goals, aspirations and plans from the end of last year or start of this year and review where you are and what you want to do before the end of the year. Happy Life Habits has a few projects till the end of the year and into the new year that may interest you.
Through learning and person experience about personal energy, circadian rhythms, ultradian rhythms and balance I have understood it is important to have time for rest, relaxation and recovery in order to let us keep performing well and do the things we want to and need to do on a continued basis. The Summer provided me with a few weeks to go on a family holiday. This we planned at the start of the year and looked forward to throughout the year. I was able to switch of from “work”. In order to do that I had to plan and action before and after the holiday. The break was a welcome respite to re-energise, connect, make memories with family and friends, have some wonderful experiences including bucket list item of hot air balloon ride, trek to waterfall and swim in it’s lagoon, be on safari from before sunrise till after sunset, see the Big 5 all in one day, have a bush breakfast and picnic lunch in the Masai Mara with zebras nearby, sunrises at the beach, full moon over the ocean and enjoy being in the moment.
Forgiveness and Gratitude
Just before going on holiday I had committed to lead a community project related to the Jain Festival of Forgiveness. This meant being very organised, planning and getting on with a lot of prep work in advance as the festival was just a few days after returning from holiday.
I really found it beneficial to be engrossed in the project focusing on Forgiveness, researching material, creating digital posters and a detailed plan for various days. The festival was for 8 days, however I was able to be with it for weeks, deepening my understanding of forgiveness. Here are 2 wonderful videos that I shared. One is on the relationship between Gratitude and Forgiveness and the other a powerful one on saying sorry while we can.
Gratitude and Forgiveness video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKDM5QH_wlo
If you need to say Sorry to Someone : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I6QwXyE0J9c
What I love about cultivating virtues, qualities and living values is that they help me grow, be aligned to who I am or want to be and bring my best self to situations. This is all part of inner work. No short term fix but long term transformation.
Who are you? Who do you want to be?
World Values Day
Happy Life Habits is again supporting World Values Day on Thurs 19th October by running 2 sessions as part of the Valuesthon. From World Values Day website:
“World Values Day is an annual campaign to increase the awareness and practice of values around the world.
Values are what matter most to us. They motivate and guide us. They are the passion in our hearts, the reason we do the things we do.
In a world that can feel increasingly divided, values help unite us. They are the glue holding together our communities and wider society. This year’s campaign theme is Values Bring Us Together.
So on World Values Day let’s concentrate on what brings us together. Let’s put our values into action, reaching across the growing barriers that divide us to build stronger communities and a more united world.”
What values are important to you? Which would you die for?
Book at here for either of the 2 sessions.
Mind in Enfield and Barnet 10 week Happiness Course
We are delighted to have been asked by the charity Mind in Enfield and Barnet to design and deliver a 10 week training course on Happiness. We start sessions on the 6th of October.
Annual Thanks Giving Lunch
Having started last year we continue with our Thanks giving lunch at the end of November. An opportunity to connect with like minded people, have great conversations and gratitude related activities while sharing a lovely meal.
The waiting list for the 30 Day Gratitude and Journal Habit Immersion Training Course is open. We will discuss potential dates with those on the waiting list.
If interested join Thanksgiving Lunch group : https://chat.whatsapp.com/LeYGtRvATZUKZXTfPSr04h
Book Club 2024
The Happy Life Habits book club returns in 2024 with the Heroic book : Arete by Brian Johnson.
Arete means living virtues to excellence or being your best self, living to your potential.
The book ((releases at the end of the year) is a product from the Heroic Public Benefit Company through which I have done the Heroic Coach Life Coaching, become an Ambassador and been using the fantastic materials for over a 2 years in the Master Mind Group and coaching sessions.
It is the best personal development platform I have used for learning, resources and actually applying the learning to move from theory to practice to mastery. Combining ancient wisdom with modern science. Reducing the learning cycle and making change happen. Various Happy Life Habits Community members via the Master Mind Group have used Heroic materials and training.
If you wish to join the book club, have a hard back copy of the book (1000+ pages), want the Heroic App or know more about Heroic let me know.
The book club is a great way to have a disciplined way of working through a book, embedding the learning by sharing with others and being inspired to apply the learning. We will initially commit to 5 sessions for the new year.
For more info see https://www.heroic.us/optimize/the-book?fpr=happylifehabits
Follow this link to join HLH Book Club WhatsApp group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/DsELdIg3tQyIB6GC0cTs6q
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list and join the Happy Life Habits Community WhatsApp Group
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
Inner Cheerleader instead of Inner Critic
Inner Cheerleader instead of Inner Critic
2, 4, 6 8 Who Do We Appreciate?
Do you sometimes amaze yourself?
We often succumb to the inner critic we all have who tells us we can't do it, we not worthy, we are not good enough, it's going to fail etc.
I believe we have an Inner Cheerleader too.
Inner Cheerleader instead of Inner Critic
2, 4, 6 8 Who Do We Appreciate?
Do you sometimes amaze yourself?
We often succumb to the inner critic we all have who tells us we can't do it, we not worthy, we are not good enough, it's going to fail etc.
I believe we have an Inner Cheerleader too. I amazed myself yesterday. I went for a walk and chose to listen to the People on Purpose podcast by David Roberts which released the episode I am in on 1st Feb. We had recorded it end of last year so I had forgotten some of what we have covered.
It's bloody brilliant if I humbly say so myself, so rich in content, David has asked questions which give breadth and depth covering so much in 60 mins about life, happiness, wellbeing, stress, work life balance, habits, routines, practices, planning, my journey, personal development, science of happiness and spirituality.
Here are the show notes:
For this episode, David is joined by Shaileen Shah who is a happiness coach. He is the founder of Happy Life Habits. A business that helps people, communities, and companies to be happier, kinder, and more effective, and to respond in a meaningful way to the challenges that life and indeed wider society throws at us on a daily basis. Shaileen shares his own learning journey. Explaining how he explored the science of happiness and sharing some of these experiments and the results. Shaileen explains how to develop habits that naturally release the happy chemicals and flush away the stress chemicals. Something that automatically makes you feel happier as well as benefiting your health and improving the balance in your life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Shaileen´s approach is informed by scientific studies into happiness as well as by cultural practices. Doing the things that naturally release the happy chemicals in your body is powerful. Hedonic happiness is fleeting. Eudaimonic happiness goes far deeper. Pro-social practices contribute massively to happiness. Acknowledge negative emotions like anger, but don't dwell on them. You have to actively counter society's negative bias. Shaileen shares several ways to do this. Connection with others is really important. Be aware of what you have achieved in the past year. It can be used as fuel to take you further. Take stock 4 or 5 times a year. Life is short, make the absolute most of it.
BEST MOMENTS
‘With that timeout, I revisited and really looked at the things which were important to me, I reflected, I looked at my values again,’ ‘Happiness is not just a fleeting emotion, it's bigger than that.’ ‘There is flex in my planning, if an opportunity comes along, which I hadn't planned for, but it feels right … I say yes to this’
It is 60 mins, take 10 minutes and listen today, if you like what you hear listen to another 10 today or tomorrow and repeat. (use link in original post or one shared in comments)
What's your Inner Cheerleader cheering you on about?
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list.
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, Youtube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
Gratitude is my Super Power
Gratitude is my superpower. When I am immersed in the feeling of gratitude I come alive, have hope, optimism, see some many possibilities, am creative and very productive. My whole energy is different - feel very positive, connected and grounded.
Gratitude is my Superpower
7 THINGS THAT AFFECT YOUR VIBRATORY FREQUENCY FROM THE POINT OF VIEW OF QUANTUM PHYSICS
What are your Superpowers?
Thanksgiving
Inner Compass Good Life
Outstanding Black Friday Offer
Gratitude is my SuperPower
7 THINGS THAT AFFECT YOUR VIBRATORY FREQUENCY FROM THE POINT OF VIEW OF QUANTUM PHYSICS
What are your Superpowers?
Thanksgiving
Inner Compass Good Life
Outstanding Black Friday Offer
Gratitude is my Superpower
Gratitude is my superpower. When I am immersed in the feeling of gratitude I come alive, have hope, optimism, see some many possibilities, am creative and very productive. My whole energy is different - feel very positive, connected and grounded. The sense of bouyancy and levity where feet a firmly on ground, grounded yet at the same time head and heart are in the skies.
Gratitude vibrates at 540 Mhz frequency - this is the same as joy. Peace and Love sit on either side. Fear is at around 100, Depression at 50 and Enlightenment 700+.
If everything is energy and the law of attraction works on energy frequencies it makes sense for us to cultivate higher energy states on a more regular basis. This is beneficial to our health and happiness.
Gratitude vibrates at 540 MHz. Being grateful falls on the same level as love — it is one of the highest vibrational frequencies you can be at. The more time you can spend in gratitude and love, the more your body’s frequency raises and the healthier your body becomes.
https://www.moravianmanorcommunities.org/practicing-daily-gratitude-to-enhance-health
Gratitude has the ability to heal, feel less deflated and give us hope. It amplifies the good in our life, rescues us and helps us feel connected.
Depression is sadness with not hope
Tal Ben-Shahar - Happiness Teacher
While writing this blog article my friend Nilpa sent me this:
7 THINGS THAT AFFECT YOUR VIBRATORY FREQUENCY FROM THE POINT OF VIEW OF QUANTUM PHYSICS.
Vibration in quantum physics means that everything is energy. We are beings vibrate at certain frequencies. Each vibration is equivalent to a feeling and in the "vibrational" world, there are only two kinds of vibrations, positive and negative. Any feeling causes you to emit a vibration that can be positive or negative.
1– Thoughts
Every thought emits a frequency towards the Universe and that frequency returns towards the origin, so in the case, if you have negative thoughts, of discouragement, sadness, anger, fear, all that returns to you. That is why it is so important that you take care of the quality of your thoughts and learn to cultivate more positive thoughts.
2– The Companies.
The people around you directly influence your vibration frequency. If you surround yourself with happy, positive, determined people, you will also enter that vibration, now if you surround yourself with complaining, cursing and pessimistic people, be careful! Well, they may be decreasing your frequency and, as a consequence, preventing you from making the Law of Attraction work in your favor.
3– The Music.
The music is very powerful. If you only listen to music that talks about death, betrayal, sadness, abandonment, all of that will interfere with what you vibrate to. Pay attention to the lyrics of the music you listen to, it may be lowering your vibration frequency. And remember: you attract into your life exactly what you vibrate to.
4– The things you see.
When you watch programs that address misfortunes, death, betrayals, etc. your brain accepts that as a reality and releases a whole chemistry in your body, causing your vibration frequency to be affected. See things that do you good and help you vibrate at a higher frequency.
5– The Environment.
Whether at home or at work, if you spend much of your time in a disorganized and dirty environment, this will also affect your vibrational frequency. Improve what is around you, organize and clean your environment. Show the Universe that you are fit to receive much more. Take care of what you already have!
6 – The Word.
If you use to complain or speak ill of things and people, this affects your vibration frequency. To keep your frequency high it is essential that you eliminate the habit of claiming, complaining and speaking ill of others. So avoid making dramas and victimizing yourself. Assume your Responsibility for the choices of your Life!
7– Gratitude.
Gratitude positively affects your vibrational frequency. That is a habit that you should incorporate right now into your life. Begin to be thankful for everything, for the good things and those that you consider not good, be thankful for all the experiences you have lived. Gratitude opens the doors for good things to flow positively in your life.
What are your Superpowers?
Gratitude is in my top 5 of Virtues in Action Character strengths. If you would like to know yours you can find out here. The new Happy Life Habits Inner Compass Good Life program has a session on Strengths. When you identify your strengths and values then proceed to work from them you have your super powers.
Through working from my superpowers and knowing the benefits of gratitude, Happy Life Habits offers your some opportunities to develop your superpowers, skills and cultivate the virtue of gratitude.
Thanksgiving
ThanksGiving gives us an opportunity to count our blessings and consider what we are grateful for.
Gratitude can help shift our mood, amplify the good we already have and give hope to a better future.
Gratitude is a habit of the heart. We recognise, acknowledge and reflect upon the gifts and blessing that we already have in our lives. We develop an abundance mindset as opposed to a scarcity mindset.
Happy Life Habits is hosting a Thanksgiving event giving an opportunity to explore grateful living using gratitude cards, to reflect, play and connect. These cards were gifted to Happy Life Habits by our friend Ashik Shah. Thank you Ashik for this gift (and others you have given). Looking forward to putting them to good use and sharing gratitude.
Gratitude Cards offer both playful and deep questions, inviting you to tune into life's abundance and the transformative possibilities of grateful living.
There are 5 themes :
Perspective - enhancing the capacity to see life anew - e.g. When was the last time you took a leap of faith?
Wonder - awakening to the beauty and magic of life - e.g. In what way is life inviting you to embrace uncertainty right now?
Sufficiency - noticing and savouring life’s abundance - e.g. Describe a role model in your life who demonstrates contentment
Connection - holding and nurturing our interdependence - e.g. What is something you can do today for your future self?
Healing - restoring ourselves, one another, and the world - e.g. What is one way you make a difference to your community?
As a group and in small groups we will explore some of these themes using the cards.
Inner Compass Good Life
This is a new program we are launching. Program for deeper clarity on your Life, Time, Energy & Focus. It will help you review the last year, make plans for the next year, identify your strengths, create a personal mission statement, recognise what’s important to you and refine your self image. Guided step and actions to make small positive changes that have a big impact.
These have helped guide me and I look forward to sharing them with you.
This program is for you if you need a refocus, refresh, clarity on time, energy and focus to live a fulfilled life.
We are launching with an special introductory launch price to work with a small group of people committed to making positive changes in their life. Starting now.
Happy Life Habits Black Friday Offer
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list.
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, Youtube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
SIX MONTHS OF EXCUSES OR SIX MONTHS OF PROGRESS?
It is pretty much 30 years since I graduated from University. My son has just sat his “A” level exams hoping to embark on his university journey. There is a lot to reflect on and a lot has changed. Let’s focus on the last 6 months.
How are your New Year’s Resolutions going?
6 Month Review
It is pretty much 30 years since I graduated from University. My son has just sat his “A” level exams hoping to embark on his university journey. There is a lot to reflect on and a lot has changed. Let’s focus on the last 6 months.
How are your New Year’s Resolutions going?
Did you see them through? Did you give up? What now for the rest of the year?
Reflecting back on the last 6 months of the year is an experience I enjoy doing regularly. It allows me to savour some of the positive experiences I have had, learn and grow, top up my self esteem and remind me of my purpose.
In the annual Looking Back, Looking Forward workshop done in December I reflected on the past year and made plans for this year both on personal and professional fronts. Some of the things I wanted to focus on were:
Take part in more podcasts, festivals, shows, conferences and webinars
Saying yes to opportunities
Learning & Growth
Health
A Better tomorrow : Talks in Community
More Corporate work
My word for the year : Intentional
Most of these are in progress with habits built around them though the more corporate work is one that needs attention.
The image shows the activities Happy Life Habits has been involved with these last 6 months. Much gratitude to all who have supported, shared or taken part.
We continued to deliver the 30 Day Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course and Monthly MasterMind Group plus workshops for Mind in Barnet & Enfield. We had events on Happier Relationships and Grief, Kids Half Term activities, took part in community webinars and talks (part of better tomorrow focus). Got involved in podcasts and invited to share at summits.
Some of these were opportunities that came our way and we said yes.
Connection and collaboration is a running theme. We hosted a Happiness Festival for International Day of Happiness in March with over 15 speakers involved and also 4 days of Mental Health Awareness Week in May with various speakers and organisations. We were fortunate to have the opportunity to share some of our morning routines in a feature for the newspaper the Metro.
For corporate work - any opportunities, leads and suggestions you have are welcome and you will be rewarded.
Direction is more important than speed
Happy Life Habit is moving in the right direction though the speed of progress is less than hoped. The next 6 months we will continue to work using our strengths in particular Gratitude and the love of Learning through gratitude related activities and the MasterMind Group by incorporating ideas and learnings from books, seminars and the 300 Day Heroic coaching course I am on to add even more value. (Prices for products and services will be going up to reflect the additional value - you can benefit by joining the waiting list now before prices rise).
Please give use a review if we have positively impacted your happiness and wellbeing. As a small business this makes a big difference to us.
Love of Learning
I've binged on books and bought a few that I heard good things about.
Which of these would you start with and why?
Do you read cover to cover on dip in and out?
Do you read one book at a time till you're finished or various at the same time?
I am reading one at a time and going through one a week by applying the habit of reading 10 pages a day.
I’ll incorporate learning from these books and others into the MasterMind Group, talks, courses, training and coaching that Happy Life Habits offers. May also do an event sharing things I have applied from the books plus short videos to share on Youtube.
Just takes 1 idea, concept or practice to change your trajectory in life.
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day.
We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
These include the 30 Day Gratitude and Journaling Habit Immersion Training Course and the monthly MasterMind Group sessions
Great investments that produce outstanding results - guaranteed!
The Happiness Journal used by Tim Ferris, Emma Watson and Shaileen Shah (pretty much every day for the last 6.5 years) is a great starter tool to shift your mood and develop morning routines. For a DIY option the journal is available for £27 (£30 inc p&p in UK, international please enquire. Order 2 or more journals at £25 each).
This is a perfect, unique and life changing gift that can be gifted for:
teachers at the end of the year as a thank you
Birthdays, anniversaries, weddings
graduations, new job
staff / employees
In fact it has been well received as a corporate gift by staff, clients and suppliers when given by my clients. (Enquire for bulk orders and add value workshops). A journal workshop and 30 Day gratitude & journal habit immersion training course (running for the last 2 years) are also available.
Contact Shaileen@HappyLifeHabits.co.uk for any enquiries.
PAY IT FORWARD FUND
A sponsored or part sponsored space on the excellent, life changing, mind shifting 30 Day Happy Life Habits Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course (worth £135+).
As a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer I have experienced Mental Health challenges such as stress, grief, loneliness, etc. One of the practices that science says and certainly has been my experience for better mental and emotional wellbeing is the practice of gratitude and journaling.
That is why during the start of the pandemic in 2020 we launched the 30 Day training course that has positively impacted many. There are many benefits that I can't list here but refer you to the dedicated web page for the course.
Through some generous seed funding from my old badminton club, Sonal Dave and others who see the benefits of the work we do have a small Pay It Forward fund.
If you or you know someone who may benefit from the Training Course but at the current moment are not able to due to financial reasons then the Pay It Forward Fund can help. As the name says Pay It Forward is someone having paid before to allow this opportunity. If you do take up the Pay It Forward funding we hope that when circumstances change for you that you are able to help Pay It Forward for someone else.
On registration form in the referral code put "Pay It Forward Fund" if you want to request use of the fund.
Happy Life Habits rewires hearts & minds for better productivity, happiness and wellbeing in 10 minutes a day. We help you move out of the comfort zone and into the learning/growth zones. Our products and services help develop habits and continuous personal development.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list.
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, Youtube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
What are your strengths and why be aware of them?
What are your strengths and why be aware of them?
What am I doing here?
I hated every minute, every moment.
Patience is a virtue…
Marketing is about Values says Steve Jobs
Last 100 Days or so plus next 100 Days or so
Mental Health Awareness Week 9 -15 May 2022 : Theme Loneliness
Pay it Forward Fund
What am I doing here?
I hated every minute, every moment. “What am I doing here?” I asked myself many a time. I was unhappy, frustrated, annoyed and unproductive. Losing company loyalty fast. Working late again on a task which I was ill equipped for. Not having the correct skills, knowledge or support. One that was not really part of my role or responsibilities. I was caught in the cross fire of stupid office politics between 2 departments; my department : Technology and the other department : Business Change. I was a technical lead on the project, that meant I’m a coder, designer, integrator not a business specification writer. However here I was sat at a desk in business change trying to write business specifications for the first and last time in my life. Hating every minute, every moment. Some additional back story context, the bank I had worked for had been bailed out in the financial crisis of 2008, yes that bank. It had spent silly amounts on a takeover of another bank, now I was in a changing culture, uncertain future, with managers who did not really know me, on a project from hell.
This was because I was not working from my strengths. In fact far from it.
These days when I work from my strengths I am in good flow mode, creative, productive, engaging, happy, on fire and on purpose. For an example of that, have a listen to recent podcasts/talks. Most recent is the Woo Woo Wednesday Show Podcast where we covered a lot of ground from gratitude, grief, science of happiness to Tony Robbins Firewalk Seminar and Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I was asked to share an overview of the 7 Habits - this was not pre-planned, it was spontaneous. Fortunately the habits have been a big part of my development so I was able to share my view and insights enthusiastically. I loved every minute, every moment. I was feeling energetic, connected and congruent. I was living from my strengths.
What are your strengths and why be aware of them?
Character Strengths are the positive parts of your personality that impact how you think, feel and behave.
Knowing and applying your highest character strengths is the key to you being your best self.
Character strengths are the core personality traits that define your unique identity and make you feel authentic, alive and engaged in life.
Research shows learning about your strengths and how to express them can make you happier, less stressed, more productive at work and better connected to others.
From VIA Institute on Character
As I continue learning and exploring I am regularly reminded of virtues and character strengths. These have been a core part of my spiritual development, personal development, happiness & wellbeing. In fact the initial version of the Gratitude Workshop was born more that 7 years ago at a Young Jains Virtue Lab where we explored and practiced virtues such as gratitude, forgiveness, humility and compassion. There are 4 foundation qualities recommended to nurture and cultivate for our spiritual journey. I’ll share two of them here, The first being ‘Maitri’ , universal friendliness, unconditional love and I akin it to the Buddhist concept of Metta, Loving Kindness. More on this in next blog dedicated to Mental Health Awareness Week which is on the theme of Loneliness. Another is ‘Pramod’ , recognising and appreciating the good qualities in others. This for me is an expression of gratitude and we fully experience this in the 30 Day Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course when we do a powerful Gratitude Letter exercise.
Current coaching program and courses I have done re-iterate knowing our core virtues /strengths and living/expressing them.
I have been taking the VIA (Virtues In Action) character strengths test for the last few years. I encouraged our Master Mind Group members take the test in 2021 and we learnt more about them in the course on Happiness and Health we were doing together. Interestingly MY TOP 5 (from the list of 24 split over 6 categories : WISDOM,COURAGE, HUMANITY, JUSTICE, TEMPERANCE, TRANSCENDENCE) have been fairly consistent last few years though order does change. Here they are for March 2022.
This is great as it fits hand in glove with what Happy Life Habits is about:
HAPPY LIFE HABITS = PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT + THE SCIENCE OF HAPPINESS + SPIRITUALITY
The 30 Day Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course expresses all 5 virtues. The Master Mind Group has learning as a core component. The community talks and free events / talks are acts of kindness and spirituality.
If you would like to find out your character strengths then you can take the free short survey by clicking here VIA Character Strengths Survey or finding the survey at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Patience is a virtue…
I have enjoyed the very visual posts shared by Janis Ozolins recently on LinkedIn.
This one, in relation to patience, struck a chord. I am all of the roles shown in the image. Being a parent definitely needs patience.
I suggested another one right next to parent and of same height or taller is "carer for your parent".
I suggested another one right next to parent and of same height or taller is "carer for your parent".
The last 15 months or so I have needed to cultivate my patience as I become one of the main carers for my elder mum (80+) who was widowed 15 months ago and suffers from both Parkinson's and Dementia.
Sometimes I have lost my patience but the lesson and opportunity comes again and again.
As they say Patience is a virtue and I'm all for developing and expressing virtues.
Marketing is about Values says Steve Jobs
A brilliant example of focus on strengths, virtues/values as well as conviction to a vision and sense of purpose. Watch the whole 15 minute video introducing the Think Different campaign for Apple - it is a master class, so inspiring and in hindsight what awesome foresight.
Last 100 Days or so plus next 100 Days or so
Here are some of the activities and events we have delivered and will be delivering. They include the Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course, Master Mind Group sessions, Gratitude & Journal Workshop for Mind In Enfield and Barnet, Kids Happiness Booster sessions, Happier Relationships, Positive Grief talk for the Lohana Community of North London, Stress & Mental Health at Better plus just last month the Happiness Festival with over a dozen speakers to celebrate International Day of Happiness.
Mental Health Awareness Week 9 -15 May 2022 : Theme Loneliness
Happy Life Habits (HLH) is again supporting Mental Health Awareness Week (MHAW). This year the theme is Loneliness.
The Paradox is you are not alone in feeling alone.
When have you experienced Mental Health Challenges or loneliness? How did you feel? What did you do? What Helped?
I've felt lonely or experience Mental Health challenges (stress) :
1st week and 1st year at University
During the Summer when finishing an MSc.
In my first job during my twenties for a US consultancy when I was posted in the US for a few weeks/months - first and only birthday and Diwali on my own without family or friends
When on honeymoon in the Maldives and better half needed an emergency operation
At work when there was after work drinks at pub, being a non-drinker and introverted I felt out of place.
When I suffered work related stress
At the start of the pandemic
I felt disconnected, on my own, low, no drive.
Anyone else experienced Mental Health Challenges or loneliness and are happy to share?
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We are partnering with some groups, organisations and individuals to support in terms of awareness, community and connection. These are : Mind In Enfield and Barnet, Young Jains, Oshwal Connect, Manish Gohel (Asian Parents Club, Business Club) , Reshna Shah, Aarti O Gosrani (Oshwal Connect), Sonal Dave, Priya Shah, Hansa Pankhania and Martine Drake (Mind In Enfield and Barnet) . We ae also very grateful to Shandip Shah from Balance Consultancy in providing sponsorship for this project.
Daily Evening sessions (will be recorded) with guest speakers followed by activity to foster connection & community.
Sessions on
Panel discussion on Community & Connection
The charity Mind in Enfield & Barnet sharing on Mental Health and Loneliness
How to overcome Loneliness
Stress & Anxiety in the Workplace
Suicide Prevention
See the posters below or events page for more details.
The next blog will be fully related to Mental Health Awareness week and the theme of loneliness. Be sure to sign up for the newsletter to get it in you inbox and not miss it.
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What an opportunity and uplifting experience. Thank you Shaileen Shah, at ‘happy life habits’.
I truly appreciate every session (and all the encouragement and support, connection and sharing in the group, and between sessions), and your incredible commitment to making it such a enriching experience.
There are so many benefits from this experience. It has opened my eyes and shown me how much more intentionally and enjoyably I can be living. I highly recommend engaging with Happy life habits.
Mary Thomson. NHS Public Governor, nurse and educator._________________________________________________________________________
Joining the Mastermind Group enabled me to be among like-minded people who all wanted to learn new things and improve their lifestyle. I enjoyed the discussions which were inspiring and uplifting. I found everyone in the group non-judgemental and genuinely interested in helping and supporting each other. Personally, they helped me resolve a difficult challenge by suggesting a few different solutions.Pragna, Carer
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In 2021 I joined the Mastermind group where it enhanced my own personal development and learnt some techniques to optimise my learning and energy which were put in practise as well. We also had to choose a book to the relevant topic and discuss what we grasped from it.
It's all about exchanging themes and ideas to suit your own pace and being with like minded people who want to make a change for themselves in a positive way!
This has definitely made me utilise my time in an efficient way and see what my priorities are and bringing about awareness.
Thank you Shaileen for bringing colours to all the members and touching the lives of many friends!
See the change in you as you bring happiness to yourself and others!
Reshna Shah
Finance Manager
Pay it Forward Fund
A sponsored or part sponsored space on the excellent, life changing, mind shifting 30 Day Happy Life Habits Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course (worth £135+).
As a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer I have experienced Mental Health challenges such as stress, grief, loneliness, etc. One of the practices that science says and certainly has been my experience for better mental and emotional wellbeing is the practice of gratitude and journaling.
That is why during the start of the pandemic in 2020 we launched the 30 Day training course that has positively impacted many. There are many benefits that I can't list here but refer you to the dedicated web page for the course.
Through some generous seed funding from my old badminton club, Sonal Dave and others who see the benefits of the work we do have a small Pay It Forward fund.
If you or you know someone who may benefit from the Training Course but at the current moment are not able to due to financial reasons then the Pay It Forward Fund can help. As the name says Pay It Forward is someone having paid before to allow this opportunity. If you do take up the Pay It Forward funding we hope that when circumstances change for you that you are able to help Pay It Forward for someone else.
On registration form in the referral code put "Pay It Forward Fund" if you want to request use of the fund.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list.
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, Youtube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
Self Care for Blue Monday
The 3rd Monday in January is known as Blue Monday when many people feel at their lowest, depressed and unhappy.
This is supposedly due to some factors occurring at a similar time which include Christmas being a fading memory, payday still a week away, January bills coming through, rest of the year still to go through, high hoped resolutions broken, cold, gloomy weather, pandemics, working in office/ from home, world crisis’ and such factors.
Monday Blues on Blue Monday
The 3rd Monday in January is known as Blue Monday when many people feel at their lowest, depressed and unhappy.
This is supposedly due to some factors occurring at a similar time which include Christmas being a fading memory, payday still a week away, January bills coming through, rest of the year still to go through, high hoped resolutions broken, cold, gloomy weather, pandemics, working in office/ from home, world crisis’ and such factors.
Ways to combat Blue Monday…
Seeing the beauty of nature ( I saw a gaggle of geese fly in V formation overhead)
Write down 3 things that your are grateful for
Take a moment to enjoy mindfulness and focus on your breathing, do a short body scan, a mindful walk or mindful eating
Read and share an inspiring quote e.g “Every day may not be a good day, but there is good in every day”
Tell a joke
Laugh out loud for no reason
Call a friend, have chat
Get together for a coffee or meal with a friend or family member
Happy Life Habits has created this useful Self Care infographic to help remind of self care practises for Blue Monday, working from home or working in the office and remind them that you are there for them.
You can share this with :
Employees
Clients
Customers
Suppliers
Prospective clients
Family and friends
By distributing via
Email
Website
WhatsApp/Messenger/Facebook
Intranet
Newsletter
Printing and putting on desks or office walls
To order an infographic with your logo and website : email us. Many thanks to the various companies/individuals who have ordered an infographic supporting the work we do.
The Self Care Infographic is based on material from this article Together in Isolation.
Click image to download a printable version
Future events being planned - opportunity to be involved
Last year we hosted a International Day of Happiness event in March using the Wonder platform and having multiple workshops happening at the same time. This year we are planning something similar for International Day of Happiness in March and for Mental Health Awareness in May.
If you would like to have a “stall” and host a workshop or talk or two then get in touch. It could be linked the self care infographic such as laughter workshop, Stress/Anxiety talk, yoga, meditation, confidence, self esteem, tapping, visioning, mindfulness, breathwork, tai chi, qui gong, art, poetry or such like. Ideally it needs to be positive, add value, sharing knowledge and practice.
All current events are in the events page
Company and Corporate Opportunities
We have a range of offerings for small, medium, large companies and corporates including talks, workshops, training and infographics that help with productivity, resilience, resourcefulness, positivity and mental wellbeing.
Get in touch if you think it would be of interest to your workplace for teams, network groups, well being programmes etc.
Feel Good Friday (Financial Wellbeing and consistent good money habits are good for our happiness)
I've learnt from studying the science of happiness that acts of kindness are good for us. We should do them regularly (even daily). One study additionally found that now and them by stacking acts of kindness together in a time slot such as a few hours or a particular day give a more longer lasting feel good factor then one a day.
Today I had the pleasure of stacking some acts of kindness together and getting this boost when I delivered books I had to local primary schools.
Recently my friend Will Rainey author of Grandpa's Fortune Fables ran a competition in which I won 5 copies of his book. 1 for me and 4 to give to a local primary school. I asked If instead I could give split the copies to give to 4 primary schools and Will happily obliged.
The 4 chosen schools are:
Dollis Primary School - My Primary
Whitchurch First School - where a friend works and where I did my first happiness / gratitude workshop for schools
Krishna Avanti Primary School, Harrow ( part of Avanti Schools Trust) - the first state-funded Hindu faith school in the United Kingdom (my son is at the secondary)
Millbrook Park School- a Church of England school where my nephew attends.
Here is a short note for the schools which Will wrote.
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Letter from the author of Grandpa’s Fortune Fables:
I wrote Grandpa's Fortune Fables to help children learn about money in a way which is fun and memorable. I strongly believe that children who learn about money grow up more confident, have higher self-esteem and less money worries as adults.
Learning about money shouldn't be boring and hence why I put the important lessons into fables. I still remember learning from Aesop's fables as they were read during the headmaster's assembly when I was at school many years ago.
Grandpa's Fortune Fables covers different money topics so that children learn to earn, save and grow their money whilst avoiding debt, scams and gambling. Empowering every child, regardless of their background, to take control of their financial future.
To help teachers (and parents), there is a discussion point, at the end of each chapter, to start a conversation with children about what they have just heard or read.
I hope you believe this book will be a great resource to the school.
If you would like to order more copies of the book, I am more than happy to arrange a discount for your school. Please contact me at will@bluetreesavings.com.
Enjoy!
Will
30 Day Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training course
The January course has started well and we have incorporated some new improvements to the course including new content for the habits section of the Journal Workshop.
Waiting list is open for future training. Upon request we can do dedicated training for small teams, groups, family and friends.
One of the benefits shared from the course
The Gratitude Journaling for Happiness workshops with Mind in Enfield and Barnet are free and scheduled for February and March. See events page for details.
Last chance to join the MMG 2022
We have a bonus kick off meeting on Wednesday 19th January, last chance to join the MMG
Take a moment to reflect on the last year. Also look forward to where you want to be, what you want to have experienced and learnt by this time next year. Take control and supercharge your development in 2022 so when you look back you have grown and developed from where you are now. MasterMind Group is open for registration, you can register here
Here are some free opportunities shared to the MMG members that may interest you for your learning, development and growth, I will incorporate learning from them in HLH activities and the What I Learnt Today page :
What I learned today… #WhatILearnedToday
Learning, education and growth is important to me, helps us be happy, reduces chances of various ailments in older age As the year goes by I am collating some of my learnings and sharing here. Updates will be on an adhoc basis maybe weekly, maybe monthly, maybe longer. Some are posted on Social Media and they are collated here.
Looking Back, Looking Forward workshop attendees, now is a good time to review what you captured in the workbook and to do so on a regularly basis.
If you want to receive articles, information on events and support Happy Life Habits sign up to the join the email list.
Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, Youtube etc links can be found at https://linktr.ee/HappyLifeHabits
Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
Looking Back, Looking Forward - HLH 2021 Review and 2022 Plans
In this blog article:
HLH 2021 review
MasterMind Group 2021 Learning Segment : RCSI : The Science of Happiness & Health
MasterMind Group 2022 opportunity
A funny True story
In this blog article:
HLH 2021 review
MasterMind Group 2021 Learning Segment : RCSI : The Science of Happiness & Health
MasterMind Group 2022 opportunity
A funny True story
Many of the HLH activities, events, projects and organisations during 2021
As part of Looking Back, Looking Forward (LBLF) Workshop
I have done a Happy Life Habits (HLH) 2021 Review. I love looking back and seeing what has been experienced during the year, lessons learnt, changes made and savour the positive times. I had forgotten many of the experiences in the first half of the year. Going through this process with the workbook was positive, energising, clarifying and helped show some of the themes. I have also made exciting plans for the forthcoming year.
Why? Our Mission:
Positively Impacting Happiness & Well-Being Levels so that individuals, groups, communities and companies can engage with life in a happier, kinder, effective & more meaningful way for the greater good.
How in 2021?
By delivering and sharing various events, activities, training, projects, ideas and experiences which included:
Gratitude & Happiness :
90 Days of Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course (3 X 1 month courses)
Thanksgiving Happiness Booster
Gratitude Journaling for Happiness for Mind In Enfield & Barnet (2 x 3 hour workshops)
Numerous Happiness Journals sold/gifted
18 Inspiration Point Podcasts of 1 hour each (12 consecutive weeks for series 2 & 3 during Lockdown)
One series was dedicated to Women, Mothers Day and International Women's Day
Celebrated International Day of Happiness
Using the Wonder platform and having a variety of speakers, coaches, therapists, practitioners share in zones for Laughter, Relaxation, dealing with loss and conversations
Talk at Healing Our Earth
6 MasterMind Group sessions
Learning & Brainstorming solutions
Learning : 10 modules on The Science of Health and Happiness by RSCI
Mental Health : Support during all of May
Happiness Boosters
Daily reflective questions in FB group
Daily release of video series during MHAW in website, LinkedIn, HLH Community, Asian Parents Club, Oshwal Connect and Covid 19 Mental Health Support
Talks on MH - APC x 2
Happiness Boosters x2
Hosting a 21 Day Simple Living Challenge
Positive Grief:
100 mins talk at Shishukunj Bethak - at Bhavan, live streamed on Zoom and recorded
Recording made into smaller bite sized videos and shared on website, FB during National Grief Awareness Week
Talk on Positive Grief given in Gujarati at Shishukunj Anandkunj for elderly audience
Positive Grief and Gratitude shared at Living Bridge Conversations with Tony Patti - Iglobal News
Talks on Science of Happiness, Gratitude, Mental Health, Grief, The Role of Effective Self care in Positive Leadership, Habits for:
Xerox The Women’s Alliance
Iglobal iWellness Show,
iRadio Podcast with Tony Patti
Living Bridge Conversations
Shishukunj (x2)
Shrimad Rajchandra Dharampur Mission Wellness Series
Healing Our Earth (International Day of Happiness)
Shared through various articles, blog posts etc on Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTube, WhatsApp and the HLH website.
Training/Learning undertaken
Mental Health First Aid & Mental Health Advocacy in the Workplace Level 2 Certification
6 weeks PQ Coaching Program
10 Module RSCI The Science of Happiness & Health
Various Bob Proctor, Robin Sharma and other trainings
Results: How many people did we Positively Impact their Happiness & Wellbeing Levels?
We have no idea. It’s not something we can measure.
Were you one?
One thing I know for sure is that one person did have a positive impact on their happiness and wellbeing levels from each and every one of these events, activities, training, projects, ideas and experiences. And that’s me! Thank you for the opportunities, support, encouragement, feedback and referrals.
Register here Happy Life Habits MMG 2022
MasterMind Group Learning Segment : RCSI : The Science of Happiness & Health
As part of the monthly MasterMind Group (MMG) we have a learning segment and a brain problem solving segment. For the learning segment we have been doing the RSCI : The Science of Happiness & Health Course. In the original course there were 25,000 people registered on it.
I had details about the course shared with me, looked at it, loved it and shared the opportunity with the MMG.
In the MMG we have worked through the 10 module curriculum taking 2-3 videos each month, watching them in our own time, making notes and then sharing them together at the MMG meeting.
I loved it as it resonated with what I learn and share drawing upon teachings from :
Stephen Covey
Viktor Frankl
Carol Dweck
Sonya Lyubomirsky
Martin Seligman
Barbara Fredrickson
Mihaly Csiksentmihalyi
Kristen Neff
James Clear
Charles Duhigg
The course shares these concepts on Increasing our Health and Happiness:
Understanding PERMA
Develop a Growth Mindset
Develop our Optimism
Understand mind-body relationships
Practising Mindfulness Meditation
Learning from the Blue Zones
Understanding our meaning & purpose ‘ikigai’
Practising Gratitude and Forgiveness
Explaining our Time perceptions
Developing positive resonance with others
Practising Empathy, compassion for others and self
Letting Positive Emotions broaden and build us
Identifying and using our personal strengths
Identifying and changing our stories
The practical daily habits we can do are:
Breathe
Meditate
Cultivate Compassion for self and others
Managing thinking process
Managing behaviour by observing thoughts (mindfulness)
Stories we tell ourselves
Positive Emotions leading to flourishing
Flow/Focus
Grow towards the light
Here is a video of the last module - worth watching
Here is what MMG members have shared of their experience:
"I've really enjoyed the learning segment which has touched on some of my degree work. Discovering how to put the learning to use as an individual when interacting with the other 'minds' of the group is fun and informative. I walk away every time feeling better about my development."
"An enriching and rewarding experience that stretched my mind, allowed the exploration of topics that I wouldn't come across in my day job, and practical insights of actions to take that I will benefit from now and in the future."
MasterMind Group 2022 opportunity
Take a moment to reflect on the last year. Also look forward to where you want to be, what you want to have experienced and learnt by this time next year. Take control and supercharge your development in 2022 so when you look back you have grown and developed from where you are now. MasterMind Group is open for registration, you can register here
Register here Happy Life Habits MMG 2022
A Funny True Story
A friend recently sent me a WhatsApp message as below:
I saw you in this video! https://youtu.be/I6QwXyE0J9c
It was a video of the motivational and spiritual teacher Gaur Gopal Das titled ‘Watch This If You Need To Say Sorry To Someone’.
I was cautious as having been a victim of Identity fraud and with many scams / fraud on the increase. (I have written about that experience in Identity Theft Fraud: How I lost more than 7 figures...and so could you). I have heard of and experienced messages like this from hacked accounts where the link takes you to a dodgy site on installs malware - hence my guard was up. I asked
Hi who is this?
in order to check if the name was correct, It was, to fully check I called them, it was my friend and I explained the reasoning for my questioning etc. It was lovely to have a quick, impromptu catch up.
I watched the video, and indeed I was in the audience from a wonderful talk I had attended by Gaur Gopal Das a few years ago.
I messaged my friend to thank them for sharing and reminding me of the important message Gaur shared. It complements with the bite sized Positive Grief video I did on Contact and Connection. I’ll add it to the Positive Grief page. I also said:
Ok, I will use this funny reply next time I get message like this, I saw you in this video! https://youtu.be/I6QwXyE0J9c.
"That's not me, I know we have same hairstyle but that's Gaur Gopal Das!"
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Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.
11th November : Today I am reminded...
I am reminded that memories creating and remembering are important…
Saturday 13th November is World Kindness Day. When we practice kindness we release the happy chemicals in ourselves, in those who receive the kind act and also in those who witness it. It’s what I call the Triple Whammy.
What is the difference between skills and values/qualities?
Looking Back, Looking Forward Workshop
11th November : Today I am reminded...
I am reminded that memories creating and remembering are important, my mum has Dementia.
Today is Remembrance Day, Veteran's Day, Armistice Day. The 11th Hour on the 11th Day of the 11th Month.
I am reminded of those
"who gave their todays so we could have our tomorrows".
I am reminded of the sacrifices to protect freedoms and give safety.
Today is the 11 month since my dad passed away. I am reminded of his kindness, positivity and helpfulness. I am reminded of death and that life is short.
Today is my nephew Kush's birthday, he is twenty something. Happy Birthday. He dropped out of Cass Business School to follow his entrepreneurial spirit and passion to be creative with his awesome street jewellery business Feather Pendants. I am reminded of birth, happiness, following your dreams, being creative.
Today is my second Workshop on Gratitude Journaling for Happiness with the Charity Mind in Enfield and Barnet. I am reminded of the power of gratitude, journaling, Thanksgiving towards the end of the month. I am reminded how blessed I am to do what I love and love what I do: Positively Impacting Happiness & Wellbeing Levels.
On Saturday 16th it is World Kindness Day. I am reminded:
"In a World where you can be anything, be Kind"
Today, what are you reminded of?
World Kindness Day
Saturday 13th November is World Kindness Day. When we practice kindness we release the happy chemicals in ourselves, in those who receive the kind act and also in those who witness it. It’s what I call the Triple Whammy.
Do some purposeful acts of kindness
Happy Life Habits as an act of Kindess and Thanksgiving has gifted tickets for the Last Inspiration Point Podcast episode on December 8th with our friend Vicky Johnson - co-founder of the Museum of Happiness. See here for tickets and please note the episode has been extended to more that the usual 1 hour.
What is the difference between skills and values/qualities?
I shared this question in the HLH Facebook Community group and got some insightful answers. I did some research, reflection and share my thoughts here.
Skills can be learnt, trained and relate to what we do. They are often what comes after “I can …” or “I am able to…” e.g. I can swim, I can drive, I can read. They are to do with doing.
Qualities / Values are innate, they are related to character, to who we are, to how we do things. E.g. they often come after “ I am…” E.g. I am patient, I am kind, I am happy. They are to do with being.
I think skills we acquire and qualities/values we uncover, nurture, cultivate. Both can require effort, focus, learning, practice, training.
The Happy Life Habits 30 Day Gratitude and Habit Immersion Training Course starts by sharing knowledge and training to develop the skills to be grateful and journaling thereby with consistent, daily, focused practice it develops and nurtures the qualities in us so we move from practicing gratitude to being grateful - we uncover the qualities of who we are.
What I am finding is that many people see training as a cost as opposed to an investment. They would be happy to spend £125 on a meal or two out at a restaurant or a night out but not see the value of investing £125 in themselves to develop lifechanging habits. They do not measure the investment cost to being in the same place in 1 years time. No growth, no progress - the same old, same old.
The HLH Master Mind Group will continue in 2022 to focus on skills training, learning and nurturing qualities looking at topics such as productivity, Energy, Sleep, Nutrition, etc to help us put into action changes for improving ourselves and our lives.
Looking Back, Looking Forward Workshop
A great way to consider the skills and qualities we have and those we want to develop is by doing a review / reflection of the last year and plans for the following year. The Looking Back, Looking Forward Workshop helps with this. This workshop is £20 but you can attend for free by investing in yourself during November with one of these Happy Life Habits products or services:
Happiness Journal - get started with instant happiness and positivity plus start of positive habits - £25
90 mins Gratitude & Journal Workshop - learn how to develop positive habits and get started with using the journal (included as part of workshop) - £55
30 Day Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course - full on focus and support to develop the positive habits in gratitude & journaling and rewire the brain for a new mindset. £125
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Shaileen Shah is a Happiness Coach, Speaker and Trainer. Previously having been in finance technology for the investment banking arm of RBS during the RBS takeover of Natwest, the RBS takeover of ABN Ambro and the financial crisis he has experienced the challenges brought by uncertainty, change and stress. He is certified in The Science of Happiness and shares through Happy Life Habits. Happy Life Habits Positively Impacts Happiness & Well Being Levels by creatively and uniquely combining Personal Development + The Science of Happiness + Spirituality. A business for Good. For more information see HappyLifeHabits.co.uk.